so often we encounter situations that stress us out and have us running around feeling like our heads are cut off. something that’s helped me lately is reaching into my toolkit. all of the tools i use are there to replace unhealthy behaviors with healthy substitutes. i know we all have things going on, so i’ll give examples of the unhealthy behaviors i experience and the tools i use to address them.
often times, i find myself getting anxious about the little things (even though they may seem so huge and unbearable at the moment.) this is something i’ve dealt with since I was younger. although, i didn’t realize it until I got to my big age. when I was young, there would be situations that would make me uncomfortable to the point where I felt sick. that was anxiety. as an adult, this same kind of anxiety has effected my body but it has manifested in other ways. whenever I get anxious about meeting new people or trying something different, I just get a body paralysis.
whenever i’m feeling anxious, I like to get a white piece of paper and brain dump out everything in my head. let’s say i’m nervous about a presentation, I like to walk myself through the journey about why this presentation is making anxious. is it because i’m going to do bad? no I got this on lock. maybe the issue is I feel uncomfortable standing up and presenting? let’s pick my outfit, try it on and record myself going through the presentation. taking these steps allows for me to break down the doubt I may have when it comes to the actual presentation
unhealthy eating habits
when it comes to this balanced mind, body, and spirit thing, its hard sometimes. sometimes I want dessert, sometimes I want to eat without thinking about the consequences of my body. something else I’ve learned about myself is that I have unhealthy eating habits. when i’m stressed I eat, when I’m stressed I don’t eat. it’s just a never ending cycle of up and down.
similar to what I do when I’m feeling anxious, before reacting to those feelings of stress, I reach into my toolkit. when it comes to unhealthy eating habits, I love having internal dialogue with myself. i may journal or just think about why I want to eat unhealthy (in my case it’ll be double stuffed golden oreos). if it’s to distract from a task or something going on in my life, I’ll try to think of another activity to take my mind off it. if it’s that i’m actually hungry and I need nourishment, I’ve also started to fall in love with cooking meals. so i’ll head to pinterest find a fun and yummy looking meal and cook it.
I would love to know which tools in your toolkit help when you encounter your unhealthy habits.
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